You might be asking how to launch your Dream Job. I want to share what’s worked for me. A word of WARNING: the content is unconventional. Before you dismiss it, I encourage you to try it. Go ahead and start small. Experiment and see how it feels. I think you’ll enjoy the results. This one is about SHOWING UP FILLED UP.
MOST PEOPLE ARE EMPTY
Most human interactions are transactional: “I do for you. Then you do for me.” Very few are transformational: “I give to you. Then I give to you again.” People who SHOW UP FILLED UP are transformational. Rather than lacking, they have extra to spare.
You fear being transformational because you tell yourself:
- I don’t want to get taken advantage of.
- I have to watch out for my own needs.
- My resources are limited.
And so most people volley back and forth for dominance, control, and agendas. It feels transactional…like 2 empty people trying to squeeze the other person for affirmation, income, and attention. Subconsciously we steer away from these interactions.
But the opposite is true.
Like magnets, FILLED UP people attract others. In business, you must prequalify your ideal clients. But when you SHOW UP FILLED UP with potential clients, they will fight to work with you. (Tweet This) A knack for presence and posture, positions you as a rare commodity. Talk about differentiating yourself!
MOST PEOPLE ARE NEEDY
It’s been said about relationships:
“The one who cares less controls the relationship.”
Perhaps true, but as a Dream Jobber™ I want you to flip the equation.
“The one who gives more controls the relationship.”
FILLED UP people are extremely valuable. Everybody wants to work with them. This is good thing. You’ll only get burned out if you don’t prequalify your ideal clients.
I’m not saying FILL UP everyone. Last time I checked you and I aren’t God. (That’s His Dream Job not ours.)
They key is clarity. Today I have an amazing list of clients. Many ask how I got to work with them. I SHOWED UP FILLED UP. I met Scott Fay, an amazing mentor, teacher, and the Vice President of The John Maxwell Team. I knew I wanted to work with him. I added value to him and discovered his needs.
Turns out he wanted to do a book. He has an amazing story. Turns out I knew how to do a book from start to finish. Fast-forward and Scott’s about to release his first book endorsed by Darren Hardy, Bob Burg, and many other thought leaders. (Congrats Scott)
MOST PEOPLE ARE HUNGRY
Let’s get extremely practical. How do you SHOW UP FILLED UP?
It looks different for everyone. For me, it depends on the first 120 minutes of my day and goes from there. If you’re not a morning person, check out Michael Hyatt’s amazing post: How to Become a Morning Person.
Here’s what I do:
- Read Scripture delivered to my Phone via YouVersion
- Review my OPUS and prepare for my intentionally designed day.
- Do a crazy workout (3x a week + jog other days) with my builder Chet Scott.
- Connect with my wife and kids.
By feeding myself first (body, soul, mind, spirit), I can clearly see all the hungry people around me. (Tweet This) By SHOWING UP FILLED UP I pick up on other people’s hurts, hangups, and habits. My strong CORE helps me ask curious questions and speak Truth in Love.
Look, I know I probably have more gaps than most people. I know my own junk and I feel my own flaws. But I deal with those BEFORE I SHOW UP. It’s one of the key strategies that helped me launch my Dream Job.
QUESTION: What are some of your ideas to SHOW UP FILLED UP? (I want to keep learning and growing from people like you.)
This post is right on the money. One of the most difficult lessons I had to learn was: self care is not selfish. If my bucket is not full, I have nothing to pour into the people around me. When I feel my bucket growing lighter I schedule time with myself; to do the things that fill me back up. That might be a soak in the tub, a drive in the country, a quiet room and a good book or some much needed laughter with family and friends.
Ohhh. I like that Tammy. I may quote you on that.
I love that you are taking the time to love and nourish yourself. The only way to truly serve is from your overflow. Everything else is just sacrifice which doesn’t feel good for anyone.
I guess you could say this post was unconventional – give and then give some more – nobody thinks that way. Maybe it’s time to change the way we think! Incredible amount of content in this one post Kary. A tremendous amount to process and think about but one this is for sure – there are things in my life right now preventing me from “filling up.” I look forward to applying what you have presented and having someone hold me accountable to make the necessary changes to fill my tank. Thanks for another well needed kick in the rear end!
You bet Barry. And yet, this is why I think the advice works. Anytime you differentiate yourself, you make your brand incredibly valuable. The risk is high…but so is the reward. Growing with you.
You and many others fill me up with the spirit every day. I’m reminded of my OPUS every time that I look in the mirror. Being filled up makes me capable of pouring out. When I’m in front of individuals or groups it’s much easier for me to share my message. That’s what happen when I’m filled up. But, one thing is for sure, it HAS to be intentional. I have to live my life on purpose. This post reminds me of that.
Awesome stuff Brian. Yes….when you’re filled up…it just spills out on others. Keep bringing it Mr. Eye Need Hope.
I simply love this post. I think that self love is the most important business asset you can have. When you come from a place of lack, people (mirror neurons) sense the lack. When you come from a space of sufficiency they sense sufficiency and who doesn’t want that.