They said she was too ugly. She told them this…

How would you have responded?

What if the “experts” said you didn’t have what it takes? What if they said you weren’t smart enough, rich enough, beautiful enough, or experienced enough? I don’t know about you, but most of us would simply agree.

We would readjust our internal self-image set-point to match the external opinion of our critics. 

This is why most people never move forward. It’s why most stay stuck and never achieve their dreams. I’ll be the first one to admit that I stayed stuck for over a decade because I didn’t understand how to reset my self-image set point.

At 17 years old I suffered from a secret addiction called self-injury. Life got so hard and I felt so badly about myself, sometimes suicide felt like the next logical step. But thankfully, I discovered a process to change all that. I went from half-alive to a Soul on Fire.

I realized we don’t get what we want; we get who we are. And who we are is determined by what we believe about ourselves. Today my life is much different. Today, I pinch myself because every day I get to IGNITE SOULS by writing, coaching, and speaking. My heart leaps inside when I’m able to offer hope, freedom, and belief to those who need it.

I want to share this same process with you this week on a FREE live webinar. Get all the details (time, date, registration), including a FREE ebook right here or on the pic below.


  • The #1 blindspot that sabotages our success and how to eliminate it for good. (70% of the population has this blindspot)
  • The 3 characteristics all VICTORS possess. (And how to integrate them into your own life)
  • The top 2 “mindfields” that create space between you and achieving your dream. (And 3 steps to close those gaps)
  • The 3 Truths you need to understand before you can reset your self-image set-point. (And how to live with that new freedom and confidence from now on)

I hope to see you there. I know you’ll love the process.

Kary Oberbrunner left his day job to pursue his dream job – Igniting Souls. Through his writing, speaking, and coaching, he helps individuals and organizations clarify who they are, why they are here, and where they should invest their time and energy.

Kary struggled finding his own distinct voice and passion. As a young man, he suffered from severe stuttering, depression, and self-injury. Today a transformed man, Kary invests his time helping others achieve their true potential. He is the founder of Redeem the Day, which serves the business community, and Igniting Souls, which serves the non-profit community. He and his wife Kelly are blessed with 3 amazing children and live in Columbus, Ohio.